Yesterday, while sitting in the center waiting for mom,
I got asked THAT question again.. “DO you work anywhere?”
I have been asked that a lot lately. “DO you have a job?”
I am so tired of having to defend myself that I just say
“Yes, I work 24/7..365.. no days off..” To the average
person Caregiving is NOT A JOB I guess. I told this nice
woman yesterday that IF I was not doing what I was
doing, my mother would be in a tendercare home and NOT in very
good shape. Her condition has improved so much in the
past 60 days she has been home, that even her doctor’s and the
physical testing they have done has proven it.
it comes down to personal choice and I made that choice.
After 20 years of helping other people and their parents I now
chose to help my own parent. Plain and simple. I watched
as older patients sat alone and had no help or contact
other than what I alone gave them. I knew how it was out
there in the world. How bad it could get.
made the decision I didn’t know I would have to give up so much
or defend myself so much to everyone I met along the way.
“Wow” she said. “you are so dedicated.. I admire that.”
I smiled and thanked her and
I said.”There was no question in my mind at all in doing
what needed to be done.” My mother took care of my dad
when he had kidney failure and we helped. I knew what it
took to take up that challenge. Times have changed since
dad was sick. Things are better now, machines work better
and so does medicine. Procedures are done now that were
not even dreamed of back in the early 90’s.
Doctor’s asked us.. Do you want the QUALITY or the QUANTITY
of life for your mother? HOW ABOUT BOTH!
Her life is better with care at home than any place she could
be right now and she is happy with it. Later on if she can’t
stay home and I can’t handle it THEN and only then will
we worry about what is next.
Sorry if this sounds too much like a rant, but it was something
that was weighing on my mind this morning.
Thanks… I needed that!!
That purchase I made a while back
on the recommendation of my Sis Carole.. the BACK JOY.. has
really saved me many hours of aching. I do walk but I do sit
a lot in a car waiting for mom’s treatment to end. Yesterday it
was cold and rainy and no weather to be out walking in.
I realized when I got home that I had been sitting in a car or
inside the center for a total of almost 6 hours!! WOW! We don’t make
trips back home with gas teetering at 3$ a gallon, so you are faced with
sitting in the car. Just wanted to mention my great JOY
at sitting on the BACK JOY and it really does work! I use it at
home in chairs, the couch and I LOVE IT! Well worth the $$ for sure.
Well I managed to catch up in less than 1000 words.. so I will end it here for awhile..
HOPE YOU ALL HAVE A GREAT DAY!!